Thought it was time for an update! Saturday was date night ... only the second time myself and Anthony have been out in seven months. My niece came over to babysit, we got Joshua settled in bed and off we went. It felt really good to dress up, straightened my hair, put on a full face of makeup and some new clothes. We started the evening by going to my favourite bar for a cherry beer before going to the restaurant. Ate so much, and drank wine. We chatted and laughed, it was a lovely evening. I didn’t text home to check if Joshua was okay, I was proud of myself. Not that we were out late, we were home by ten thirty and Joshua was up playing with my niece! She did call me to warm me she couldn’t get him back to sleep, but he was happy and that’s all that mattered. I got him back to sleep in the end and then he slept the entire night for the FIRST time. So impressed!! Shame he hasn’t done it since!
As hard as it is leaving my little prince it really did us good to get some quality time alone – it is important.
Been in work again this week, two days done – one to go. It’s getting easier, and I am so impressed that I can remember most things. Feels like I never left. Joshua is so clingy when I get home though, I can do nothing until he is in bed as every time I put him down he cries. Even when his Dad holds him he reaches out for me. He misses his Mummy and that makes me feel rotten for leaving him but does mean I get loads of cuddles when I am home.
Something really annoyed me today though. People telling me how to be a Mummy, I can’t tolerate it. He’s my child, I will do things as I feel appropriate just because they did it different with their child does not mean that is the way it should always be. It doesn’t make me a bad person because I can’t leave me child to cry, I will not stop feeding him during the night because you tell me he doesn’t need feeding at night at his age. If he asks for a feed I will give it him. Honestly everyone else is more bothered about me getting up for night feeds than I am. If I don’t care, if I am happy to do it why does everyone have to tell me what I SHOULD be doing to stop it. Leave him cry... I don’t think so! Crying is his form of communication, it means he wants something if only that is only a cuddle. Everyone parents in a different way and I would never dream of telling another Mum how to do something, I would tell them what I do. Or what I would do in that situation, but never any more than that. What works for one mother and baby is different for another!
Anyway that’s it from me.
xxx
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I'm really glad to hear you had such a lovely time with Ant on your date :D and that you were strong and didn't check on Joshua every 5 mintues :)
ReplyDeleteAs for the advice part, don't listen to them, no one knows your little monkey as good as you and Ant do, so only you can know what he needs or doesn't.
But I guess these kind of people will always be there and will always tell you whats the best for your boy, even if he is already 18 :p
Stumbled upon your post through tag surfer and just wanted to say I totally agree with your last paragraph! My husband and I also just went on a much needed date night! We have a 10 month old and hadn't been out alone together since July!
ReplyDeleteGlad to hear you had a great time on your date night with Ant.
ReplyDeleteDon't listen to those people Lu. You know what you are doing and what Joshua wants. Those other people don't know what your son want. Just keep doing the great job you are doing now as a mom and Ant's being a great dad too.
Great to hear you had such a good night out babes! You deserves it! ;) And I agree with everyone else, don't listen to those people hunny. You know what's best for your son, but unfortunately there will always be people who meddle too much and think they know him better than you do. But just ignore them! ;)
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